Dating Someone With An Addiction

Sadly, a significant portion of the worlds population has an addiction of sorts. This can be various drugs or alcohol. It can even be something thats not a chemical, such as a sexual or gambling addiction. There are many of these addictions that can be hidden until you get to know the person much better. In fact, this is the main problem when you get involved with someone that has an addiction. Many of them arent immediately evident so you think youre getting a real catch until the symptoms start exhibiting themselves. When youre already in love with someone by the time you realize that he has an issue, its more difficult to withdraw from the relationship. Unless the person becomes hurtful and abusive, it may be almost impossible to find the strength to leave a situation thats not the best for you. Of course, everything is different if your partner is willing and determined to seek the help he needs in order to kick his addiction. In that case, it makes all kinds of sense to stick it out with your partner to provide the much needed support that can, sometimes, help facilitate the treatment. On the other hand, if your partner doesnt acknowledge that he has a problem, let alone agree to seek treatment for it, you may need to make a difficult decision. Its harmful to you if you stay in a situation of this type with no hope for it to improve. No matter how much you may love someone, if he has an addiction and refuses to admit it and seek help for it, youll only drag yourself down, too, if you decide to remain. Should you decide to leave, theres no need to feel guilty because youll leave knowing that you did all you could do. Now, in the event that the signs of an addiction were evident from the first meeting you had with this person, and you still allowed yourself to become involved with him, then shame on you! Why would you do something like that to yourself? This is definitely a What were you thinking? moment. Its one thing to have the situation sneak up on you. Its an entirely different one to go into it with your eyes wide open. Now, if youre in a relationship with someone thats showing some definite signs of a serious addiction, all you can really do is try to convince him to get the help that he probably so desperately needs. In the meantime, you can also do something for yourself. There are some support groups formed specifically for the loved ones of people with addictions. Examples of these are Al-Anon and Nar-Anon. If youve made the decision to stay in this relationship, its vital that you contact a support group that can help you deal with the situation. If you decide that you need to leave the relationship, do so when youll feel less threatened or less prone to being manipulated. You can help someone you love only so much. Then you must take care of yourself.